Ciao!

Sounds a lot like my high school days. Interestingly enough, I got an e-mail from my 10 year reunion today too! I plan to go if schedule permits and here's why: I want to see what people got fat. I want to see how many of the jerkoffs who thought I was a 'burnout' because I had long hair and wore leather are now sporting septum piercing and frosted hair and listening to Stain'd.

More importantly though, I want to provide all the useless juveniles that I knew or hated as second chance. I know that I have grown a great deal over the last ten years and who knows? Maybe the captain of the football team is brilliant now! Maybe the scrawny whelp of a soccer player that I fought in the hall is a great man now. Maybe the girl that I used to drop pencils for (yes...I did it too...we all did...high school panty shots are the most delicious panty shots of them all) is...well...maybe she's still a hotty! I don't know. I just think it would be interesting.

Plus, it's being held in one of my favorite beer gardens in Indianapolis. How can it miss?

Love,
Micah

Was it from classmates.com? Betcha it was ...

I was faced with this dilemma not too long ago, and I opted against. I really don't miss anything about Romeo High School. What did I have to look forward to, all of my High School friends were either a year or two older than me, or a year younger. Sure, I could go back and see Kid Rock's younger sister--star of such glamorous televison failures like Pacific Palasaides and Titans. I could go and laugh at all of the jocks who still never made it out of town... but why, it would be entertaining for about fifteen seconds. I'd rather go down to the Kalamazoo mall to laugh. More personality and fun that the roomfull of beer-guts I know that I would have to endure. And what if Kid Rock's sister didn't show up? Positively NO FUN!!

For the record, I have no animosity towards my high school classmates. That's not it. Most of them were pleasant enough to talk to and know at the time. It's just that I don't have much of an interest in going out of my way to see them again — one way or the other.

It's like this. A few years ago I travelled by bus from Bolivia to Chile. I had conversations w/ my fellow travelers. They were quite pleasant. We had meals together at border towns. If there were any among us that had wanted to keep in touch five years later, we would've exchanged addresses or something and just, you know, kept in touch. But if someone suggested that, five years later, we should all meet up for a reunion ... I'd be at a loss to understand why.

I don't necessarily hold any animosity towards any of my former classmates... in fact, I'm really quite apathetic. That's why I didn't end up going. They didn't understand me in high school and they certainly wouldn't understand why I live the same lifestyle now. I have about as much in common with them now as I did then. Probably less. It's exactly as you say Miguel... I'm at a loss to understand why I would want to keep in touch with someone whose locker was next to mine in gym. It's crap. I don't long for years gone by. Those were not my "glory days."

For you there may not be much of a point in getting back in touch with former classmates. I think the advantage is more in the lives of those who stay within the community. If you go off to college and don't come back there is not much to gain from the event other than an opportunity to scoff at failures. However, if you went off to school and became part of the work force locally, you might see real advantages to running into contacts that you had not concidered.

I was told over and over again growing up that half the point of elementary and high school was for learning how to socialize, how to work in a group. I think the reunion thing facilitates extra return from the investment. Classmates find that upon maturation they have similar fields or interests and very similar roots. Also, for someone like myself, I wouldn't necessarily be going to stand aloof over the losers of my class. I would probably become reassured that so many were as unachieved and unrealized as I am. See what I mean?

And no, it was not an e-mail from classmates.com...it was from a classmate of mine. I never knew her. I delete spam unopened just like my computer gurus told me to!

Love,
Micah

O.K.
I came here out of chance. I did a search for "Why I'm not going to my High School Reunion" and arrived here. Sept. is my High School Reunion and I really have no desire to go. I think maybe I'm trying to find some altruistic excuse to not see those people from high school again.
I was popular, a varsity Football player, did philanthropic things with my history teacher. Dated a theater chick so basically got along with everyone. But I'm such a different person now.
I really don't want to go and talk about me or my life to people that I haven't talked to in 10 years. The people I care to know where I am and what I'm doing already do. I'm married and semi-succesful, so I don't get it. I don't want to go gloat, and I don't want to see how other people are doing, I just don't care. Why do I feel guilty for not wanting to go?